Stephen Karpman, an American psychiatrist and Eric Byrne’s student, described a triangle in “reciprocal behavior analysis” called the “Karpman Triangle” by Eric Byrne.
The Karpman Triangle is a description of the situation of those who have accepted the role of victim and not only do not leave this role but also strengthen it.
The Karpman triangle has three sides:
Victim:
The main axis of the Karpman triangle is someone who considers himself a victim. Life with him is cruel and human beings have prevented him from being happy. The victim is always injured and carries a bunch of bad memories and a basket of sighs and groans!
Harasser:
The perpetrators are the person or group who has been cruel to the “victim”: inadequate parents, jealous family, uncultured society, unfaithful spouse, and there is always an “enemy” in the victim’s life, the one who prevents victim to reach his rightful place!
Saviour:
Professional victims never push themselves to get out of trouble. They are waiting for a legendary saviour to come on a white horse and kiss the lips of this “sleeping beauty” and save this “sacrificial Cinderella” from the house of an evil stepmother. This mythical saviour, unlike the tormentor who is the crystallization of the obvious, is the crystallization of all good and worthy attributes! With this introduction, let’s take a look at the “historical reading of Iranians”:
In every historical period, someone or persons have come and changed the destiny of the Iranian nation! The legendary “Zahak” (Dragon) fed the brains of two young Iranians every day on the shoulders of snakes growing on his shoulders, and a nation victim two young men silently every day in the kitchen, until Kaveh Delavar (hero) removed the leather flag of the uprising and Fereydoun has appeared beyond the mountains, a nation has done nothing but kiss Zahak’s hand! Let’s skip this legend of Shahnameh and deal with what is called history:
Alexander the Great marches through Greece !) They take, on foot and on horseback (not aircraft carriers and ballistic missiles!) They cross and conquer the entire width of the Iranian plateau and go to India and China. He rules the people of “Iran” not for ten years but for hundreds of years until the internal differences between the Greek generals weaken them and the Parthian army attacks them and the government returns to the “Iranians”!
This story is repeated many times: “Saad Ibn Abi Waqas” comes from Qadisiyah and takes a large part of Iran with horses and camels, Genghis Khan’s son comes from the east and plows all of Iran and goes to Asia Minor.
In addition to these historical legends, in documentary history, the British bring the king and after a few years, they will take the king!
Where is the Iranian nation in the middle?
It is as if in a square, Ahriman and Ahura are arguing and the people of Iran are spectators around that square! (Go, you and your Lord, and fight, for we are sitting here (Ma’idah/24).).
Either a “legendary savior” appears and the nation sacrifices his life in its footsteps, or the “cunning enemy of the fugitive” prevails and the nation “waits” for not one or two years, but for decades and even centuries!
How many people did Zahak, Alexander, Saad and Hulagu have with them who could chain a nation within a radius of several thousand kilometers in a few hundred years ?!
Where were the “Iranian nation” when the British brought Reza Khan and took him away ?!
Has anything called “the nation of Iran” been achieved so far, or is “our collective identity” the same legendary savior who is supposed to come and save us, like Fereydoun, Abu Muslim and Sushyant ?!
Why does this nation wait for decades for Fereydoun, Abu Muslim and Hulaku Khan to appear and expel the foreigners ?!
If the Bashtin leaders were able to flee the Mongols, why did the Bashtians give their property and honor to the Mongols for decades and be patient ?!
I find the answer to all these questions: the Carpman Triangle! Our historical reading bears a striking resemblance to the Carpman Triangle, the victim of our unconscious collective choice! The enemy is the excuse!
“Say the truth and if you are dead!”
Dr. Mohammad Reza Sargolzaei – Psychiatrist
Translated By: Negar Kolkar
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